Content
The basic starting points we work with during this course are the principles of the Psychology of Selves, the bonding patterns and your personal experience with relationships. Particpants need to have enough experience with Voice Dialogue and the Psychology of Selves. The course is practically oriented with sufficient theory.
Unit 1
The first unit consists of two consecutive days with the following subjects:
- What is love?
- Bonding patterns in relationships, with special attention for the patterns of attack and withdrawal.
- Training in analyzing the bonding patterns (mapping), a prerequisite for all the following work.
- Transference & countertransference.
- Vulnerability: the key to intimacy and effective collaboration.
- Attachment: fear, signals and needs.
- Linkage part 1: energetic connection as a healing power.
Unit 2 – the dynamics of relationship
- Polarities and polariasation in relationships.
- Relationship constellations.
- Particpants facilitate each other on a relationship theme.
- Clearing: working through a relationship problem between the partners.
- Linkage part 2: energetic connection as a healing force.
Unit 3 – the relationship coach conversation
- Basic attitude: reflecting on one’s own role as a coach.
- When to choose for an individual or relationship oriented approach.
- Linkage part 3: energetic connection as a healing force.
- Relationship trauma’s: never again!
- Demonstration session with a couple (work or private) by a trainer.
Unit 4 – the right intervention at the right moment
- Practical tools and home assignments you can give to couples.
- Different techniques and interventions to move through impasses.
- Sexuality and intimacy.
- Participants facilitate a couple from their own network under supervison. This can be a work-, family-, friendship- or intimate relationship.
Unit 5 – deepening and attention for the relationship process
- Being able to design a treatment program: from a single conversation to the larger spectrum.
- Which area’s need first attention in a relationship crisis?
- Further development of one’s own style.
- How to integrate everything in one’s own practice.
- Demonstration session with a couple (work or private) by a trainer.
Concluding day
On this final day there is an opportunity for loose ends and we dot the i’s and cross the t’s.
Intensive guidance
The guidance is very intensive and is provided by Ruud Zuurman and Robert Stamboliev.
Literature
The following books will be used during the program:
- Embracing Our Selves – Hal and Sidra Stone Ph.D.
- Partnering – Hal and Sidra Stone Ph.D.
- Embracing your Inner Critic – Hal and Sidra Stone Ph.D.
- The Energetics of Voice Dialogue – Robert Stamboliev MA
- Focusing – Eugene T. Gendlin Ph.D.
- Hold me tight – Sue Johnson Ph.D.
- The article ‘Why individual coaching can be counterproductive for relationship issues‘ – Ruud Zuurman
Study load
The program consists of 5 blocks of 2 days and a final day for presentations, in total 11 days. Next to this there are 4 meetings for intervision, assignments, case and literature study.
The training program lasts 7 months.
Result
After this course:
- You understand the core of relationship problems and are more able to find the sore spot in these problems.
- You have the tools to make a diagnosis and to draw up a specific guidance plan.
- You have gained knowledge and developed skills to guide various relationships.
